Saturday, January 30, 2016


I don't mean to be blunt but I am. I wish I knew how to fix it. Timing all wrong, but when the message is don't be drunk around your kids I have a hard time backing down. Igh. This shit sucks.

Thursday, January 28, 2016


I had no idea there was any more of my heart to break, or that it would be I to break it, by hurting the one I am letting go.

Tuesday, January 19, 2016

From Ash

Heartbreak and relief all in one breath. I wish this on no one, but I know so many have gone before and made it through better and stronger. The life we know is gone, but a new one with different blessings awaits. I will lose many comforts, but new more important things will take their place. I will cry and mourn, and smile and laugh, and on the other side I will find some day in the future that I am whole once again. Changed. Morphed. Maybe even scarred. But tougher. Happier. And free to start again, this time holding on to who I am and becoming who I was always meant to be. I have few regrets, because even in the ashes I can see so much beauty that was given to me as lavish gifts in the middle of storms. My children for one.

Thursday, January 14, 2016


I can't even put one foot in front of the other right now. I can't stand up without the tears flowing. So I'm here in the tiny WC in my bathroom. Door locked. Excuses made to the children. I find calm but each time I think of standing up and opening the door a wave of tears overcomes me. This is pathetic. But this is where I am.

I asked for a divorce.  He agreed, yet we are still in the same house and bed weeks later. I ask him to leave and it breaks my heart. He says no and it breaks my heart.  Friends and family say do this and that. He says no. And so I make no one happy. I have no backbone, and I don't even have enough sense to make my own decisions about all this. About life in general. So here I am. Ashamed and weak. In the bathroom. Blogging from my phone about the fact that I have no idea how I will stand up and walk out of here and face life and people at some point. And what I will do from there.

Monday, January 11, 2016


Today I feel like a grownup for the first time in a long time... or maybe ever.  Today I stop allowing myself to be convinced that I am weak and broken and not in control of my life and destiny.  Today with a lot of prayer and so many people at my side, I am taking ownership of my future and standing up to take responsibility for doing what is right and what is best. I will not be walked on, deceived or manipulated any more. 

Saturday, January 9, 2016


Standing side by side
We watch each other fall
Like statues aged with grief.
Slowly we carve pieces,
Down to the bone,
Offerings to the courts
Recompense for
irreconcilable differences.
Slow death by divorce,
But we were killing each other


You touched my scars with yours
Showed me your pain, so like mine
And for a moment I was in your world.
I could have kissed you then
Held your face in my hands,
Roamed around the planes of your skin
Made your world mine.
Oh how I wanted to make you mine
For the moment,
But a moment is all I have to give
And then I'd just be another scar.

From the moment I met you,
I found it my goal to see you smile.
A smile so beautiful through your scars.
I could have kissed you then
Held your face in my hands,
Roamed around the planes of your skin
Made your world mine.
I so ached to make you mine
For the moment,
But a moment is all I have to give,
And then I'd just be another,
Another set of scars.